Travis Sky Ingersoll, PH.D., MSW, M.ED. - Social Work & Sexual Health Education/Consulting/Research
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June 2012

How could a man want to have sex with a man, but doesn’t love him? And why would a man say he loves a woman, but doesn’t want to have sex with her? Why could this happen?

Answer:

There may be many paths toward the possible truth in answering this series of questions. However, I feel it is important to offer some concrete possibilities.  It is possible for both men and women to have sex with people that they don’t love.  One-night stands and occasional hook-ups are a reality for many sexually active people throughout the world.  I’m not endorsing such behavior, rather I’m simply acknowledging that it happens.  I believe that the best sexual experiences involve intimacy, trust, open communication and spiritual connection; all of which are difficult to obtain in a one-night stand.

Why do so many girls call their female friends “my wife”, ”Honey”, etc, but boys think it’s sick. What make girls do that? Does it mean they changed their sexual orientation?

Question:            
 
Why many girls call their female friends “my wife”, ”Honey”, etc, but boys think it’s sick.
What make girls do that? Does it mean they changed their sexual orientation?
 
Answer:
What makes girls do that? Doesn’t it mean they changed their sexual orientation? I find these to be interesting questions.  All stereotypical “male” and “female” behavior has to do with socially-constructed gender roles and gender-based ideologies.

What do you think about a failed marriage because of an unhappy sex life?

Answer:

Even though there are very happy men and women who do not have much interest in sex, I think that one’s sexual satisfaction can be a very important factor in whether or not some people feel happy with their romantic relationships; married or not.  To directly answer your question, my opinion is that some marriages do fail because one or both partners are unhappy with their sex life.  However, the reasons behind such unhappiness can have a variety of sources, including past sexual experiences, communication issues, and even the loss of sexual attraction toward one’s partner.
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