Travis Sky Ingersoll, PH.D., MSW, M.ED. - Social Work & Sexual Health Education/Consulting/Research
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Q: I just learned a little about Native American two-spirited people. Is being transgender and being a two-spirit the same thing?

A:What we know about trans-related (i.e., transgender, transsexual, intersex) topics has grown significantly over recent years. However, individuals who identify as being neither “male” nor “female” or of being something entirely different, a third gender if you will, is a human reality depicted in our earliest writings and artworks. Before getting to the answer, I feel it’s necessary to provide a brief historical background of indigenous American Two-Spirit people.
Throughout North and South America, many of the native population’s creation myths

What exactly is PMS? And why do women taking the pill still have to deal with it?

What exactly is premenstrual syndrome?A syndrome is a group of symptoms that
occur together, and in the case of PMS those symptoms are in relation to the female
menstrual cycle. With PMS, physical symptoms may include cramps, dizziness,
backache, fatigue, nausea, a tingling in the extremities, abdominal bloating, breast
tenderness, breast swelling, change in appetite, thirst, edema, and increased body weight.
Psychoemotional symptoms may include anxiety, tension, irritability, depression, mood
swings, crying spells, decreased interest, insomnia, feeling out of control, and an

Is frigidity for real?

Question: Is Frigidity Real?
A little background about the word “FRIGID”
Before I get into whether the condition of frigidity is real or not, it’s important to inform that the word “frigidity” is an outdated, sexist term.  There was a time in most world societies (not that long ago to be honest) that women were more likely to be seen as domestic livestock, as being voiceless, powerless and inherently inferior to men.  Their husbands and boyfriends expected them to demonstrate their appreciation for everything a man provided for them, by enthusiastically, passionately having sex with them whenever it was required.

How could a man want to have sex with a man, but doesn’t love him? And why would a man say he loves a woman, but doesn’t want to have sex with her? Why could this happen?


There may be many paths toward the possible truth in answering this series of questions. However, I feel it is important to offer some concrete possibilities.  It is possible for both men and women to have sex with people that they don’t love.  One-night stands and occasional hook-ups are a reality for many sexually active people throughout the world.  I’m not endorsing such behavior, rather I’m simply acknowledging that it happens.  I believe that the best sexual experiences involve intimacy, trust, open communication and spiritual connection; all of which are difficult to obtain in a one-night stand.

Why do so many girls call their female friends “my wife”, ”Honey”, etc, but boys think it’s sick. What make girls do that? Does it mean they changed their sexual orientation?

Why many girls call their female friends “my wife”, ”Honey”, etc, but boys think it’s sick.
What make girls do that? Does it mean they changed their sexual orientation?
What makes girls do that? Doesn’t it mean they changed their sexual orientation? I find these to be interesting questions.  All stereotypical “male” and “female” behavior has to do with socially-constructed gender roles and gender-based ideologies.

What do you think about a failed marriage because of an unhappy sex life?


Even though there are very happy men and women who do not have much interest in sex, I think that one’s sexual satisfaction can be a very important factor in whether or not some people feel happy with their romantic relationships; married or not.  To directly answer your question, my opinion is that some marriages do fail because one or both partners are unhappy with their sex life.  However, the reasons behind such unhappiness can have a variety of sources, including past sexual experiences, communication issues, and even the loss of sexual attraction toward one’s partner.

Do you agree that we are all bisexual?

Do you agree that we are all bi-sexual?
No I don’t.  However I do agree with the growing volume of research that asserts the majority of human beings are bisexual to some degree; with individuals being purely attracted to the opposite sex or purely to the same sex being the true sexual minorities.  And when I refer to the term “bisexuality” I’m defining it as a sexual orientation in which the individual is capable of being romantically and/or sexually attracted to members of both sexes (i.

How do you prevent sexual violence in relationships?


Healthy relationships are consensual, non-exploitive, mutually pleasurable, safe, developmentally appropriate, based on mutual expectations, caring and respectful. Any sexual relationship that cannot be described in those terms should probably be carefully examined; something may be wrong, possible very wrong!  On US college campuses, approximately 20-25% of college females become victims of an attempted or completed rape at some point during their college career (American College Health Association, 2008).

Do you think there is true love in the real world?

Absolutely!  As someone who has spent the last 15 years with my partner Mindy, who I consider my "true love" and soul-mate, I know for a fact that true love is as real as it is common.  When someone says that they are looking for, or have found, their soul-mate, what they are actually saying is that they've found someone whom they feel so intimately, spiritually, and physically connected to, that they feel the only explanation for having found such a "perfect" and complimentary partner, is through some kind of divine or cosmic intervention.

Q: What are hormones, and what do they do?

Q:  What are hormones? 

A:   Although there are a variety of hormones pumping through the veins of males and females at any given time, let’s keep it simple and focus on the major classifications of the hormones involved in sexual differentiation: Androgens and estrogens. Androgensis the generic term for the hormones that promote the development and functioning of the male reproductive system. Estrogensis the generic term for the hormones that stimulate functioning and maturation of the female reproductive system.
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